The following post is from Amanda Bacon:
If you homeschool, chances are that going against the grain is part of your nature. Eyebrow raises, puzzled looks, and the shaking of heads doesn’t shake your resolve. You’ve thoughtfully and prayerfully made this decision to teach your children at home, wanting the best for your kids. You aren’t making a statement about their kids, just yours.
I’ve been realizing lately that no matter how against the grain and free we feel, sometimes we’re still stuck. Stuck in the how-to’s and should-do’s, they-do’s, and the fail-to’s.
We dive into homeschooling and think it has to look one way, or like everyone else’s way. She has her kids in art lessons. Maybe I should too. I’m depriving my little Monet the opportunity she deserves. And they are involved in drama. Maybe our kids are missing out, and will never thrive in life if they haven’t stepped foot on a stage. Oh, what have I done? I’m ruining my children.
Did you dream about experiences you wanted to have with your kids when you started out on this journey? Do those things. Maybe it’s sitting on the couch all cozy-like, with Nickel Creek playing in the background while you read Little House on the Prairie. Or maybe that sounds drab. That’s great! We weren’t meant to be the same – just because we like that sort of thing doesn’t mean you have to as well. You have permission to be you.
What if your vision for you children’s education could be encapsulated in a 64-count box of Crayola crayons? Would they be neon? Glitter? Skin-colors? Primary? Original? Gem tones? Let’s say you chose neon, and were passionate about neon. You get excited planning, dreaming, reading, and buying — all centered around neon.
But then you looked around and all the people you know chose primaries. No one you know chose neon. Would you begin to add a regular Red and a standard Green to your box and throw out Laser Lemon or Atomic Tangerine? Sometimes we do that for fear of feeling unnatural or to blend in a bit. But we don’t need to.
Us women are unique. God made you unique. Therefore, your homeschool will be unique. (click to tweet this)
I may not understand your love for Atomic Tangerine, but I can respect it, and trust that you are doing what you feel is best for your family. And you may not understand my Wild Strawberry.
Why would an expression of what’s in your heart come out looking like mine? And likewise?
As we jump into our 10th year, I’m now comfortable in my homeschooling mom skin. I even own homeschooling stretch marks. Oh, how it has stretched me! We do what suits us around here. Our family is different in makeup and dynamic than any other family I know. So shouldn’t our homeschooling makeup and dynamic follow suit?
You go ahead and be Jazzberry Jam, and I’ll be over here being Carribbean Green. Then we’ll both be happy. And we’ll still be friends.
|Amanda Bacon is the mother of eight kids, ages two to thirteen. You can find her blogging about faith and motherhood at www.amandabacon.com. She is also the co-creator of The Masterpiece Mom, the new website and podcast for moms! She has a love for adoption, homeschooling, and encouraging women through her writing. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter.|