The following post is from Shannen of Middle Way Mom:
Do you remember the first days after a new baby is born? Maybe it’s been a few years, over a decade, or maybe even just a few months ago. Regardless, we all remember the days that spill into the nights, and the blur those first weeks are for the new mom. Add in homeschooling to the family mix, and a new baby puts nearly everything on pause. Homeschooling moms normally have nearly a super power in juggling lots of thing, but even she could use some help in those first weeks after baby arrives.
Everyone gets a stream of visitors wanting to cuddle the new baby and chat with the new mom, but what your homeschooling friend needs more than visitors is resources to help lighten her load.
Here are some things you can do to help your homeschooling friend with a new baby:
Give the kitchen floor a quick sweep, pick up toys, fold blankets the kids left after making a fort, wipe down bathroom counters and mirrors, whatever looks like the new mama would appreciate. Most moms don’t mind other people washing their dishes, but won’t ask for help as it piles up. Take the lead and do a load of dishes, or tackle the hand-wash items that look forgotten about.
Laundry? You’d have to be a pretty close friend to be welcome to wash another woman’s postpartum undies, but if she lets you, please throw in a load! Plus, laundry is a great timer for how long someone should stay for a visit. Tweet this In the first week, both mama and baby should be resting, not entertaining visitors. By the time the load of laundry is done, it’s your queue to give them some quiet, and if you can, help with one of the other items listed below.
Take the kids out
Just like the new mom shouldn’t be entertaining guests, laying low from taking the kids out and about should be on her roster. Let mama have some alone time with her new baby, and take the other kids out to do something fun or one of their routine items. Even something simple like going to the library or the park gets the kids out of the house (and easier for mama to handle later in the day).
Help with lessons
Are you doing a fun unit study with your kids? (affiliate link) Let her kids join in! Math is normally a pretty easy subject to pick up without much prep, and as a core subject, would be highly appreciated to know it’s complete for the day. Really, as a fellow homeschooling mom, you know a little bit of work can go a long way.
Food is the universal gift! Everyone loves to eat without the work of cooking from time to time, so after checking if her family has any allergies, bring something simple to heat up that night for dinner.
One thing to note, please either bring something in a disposable dish, or in a pan you don’t mind never returning. Don’t count on the new mom brain fog to keep track of your dish. Bringing a main dish that can be frozen is ideal, in case other helpful friends and family had a similar idea. Need ideas? I have an entire freezer cooking Pinterest board!
Gift cards for restaurants
Know her favorite restaurant with take out or delivery? Get some gift cards for the days where even a freezer meal is hard to get to. There were quite a few times I would call in the order and have my husband pick up dinner on the way home, if delivery wasn’t an option.
With my third child, freezer meals and restaurant gift cards were how we ate for the first full two weeks, and it was a fantastic break for me so when I did get back in the swing of things, I could hit the ground running instead of feeling like I was recovering for weeks or months on end.
All of us moms, homeschooling or not, often feel pressure to get right back into our normal routine quickly. No longer is it seen as acceptable for moms to take a few weeks to just soak in the new baby and rejuvenate after the 9 months of hard work her body has been through.
Be a friend, and give the new mom in your life a little break, and let her enjoy the slower pace of life that a new baby brings. She’ll never get those days back. Help her by letting her sit back and enjoy it a little.
What tips would you give to be a helpful resource to a mom with a new baby?
|Shannen homeschools her teen daughter, focusing on earning college credit while in high school, and is getting ready to start the homeschool cycle again with two little ones. You can find her blogging about how they homeschool high school, preschool, and everything that goes along with it, plus meet up with her on Google +, Pinterest, Twitter, and Facebook.|
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