The following is a post by Amy of Eclectic Homeschooling
We have all been there. We have seen moms of young children who are able to keep an incredibly clean house. We have seen and tasted the delicious meals from a talented and busy mom. Let’s not forget homeschooling. There are moms who seem to be able to get to the subjects that many never have time to do. There are moms with kids who are highly motivated to learn and moms who find a way to do fun projects all the time. We have read blogs in awe at what some people are doing. These people are real people, but they are all different people. When we compare ourselves to all these different people, we are comparing ourselves to everyone else’s best.
This is the trap many of us find ourselves in. We compare our housekeeping skills to the amazing housekeeper we know. We compare our cooking skills to the best cook we have ever known. We compare our homeschooling methods to a mom who does creative projects or to a mom who has children who are advanced academically.
This is so unreasonable. There is no one person who is the best of the best of everything. When we compare ourselves to different people with different strengths, we are comparing ourselves to something that doesn’t exist.
We look at different families whether they are known in person or someone online and determine our value by comparing ourselves to them. Everywhere you look, you will find someone who seems to do something better.
People are different with different strengths. It is okay for them to shine at something you don’t, just as it is okay for you to shine at something they don’t. Perhaps their life may inspire you or maybe they will give you tips that may be helpful on your journey. Don’t expect to be them, though. Be yourself.
God gave your kids to you. Do what you do best and don’t worry about what others do best. Be yourself. Be content that you are who you are. Your best may not be someone else’s best and that’s okay. Some people shine very well in one area, others may have a good balance going on, and others may still be finding their footing.
Contentment isn’t found when we become like someone else. It is found when we satisfied with who we were made to be. It is found when we nurture our strengths and recognize that the mom down the street, the mom on that blog, or the parent in the homeschool group will have areas of strength that you never will. Be the you that you were meant to be and don’t compare. Comparing isn’t fair to you or your family.
Amy is a homeschooling mom of 3 kids between the ages of 5 and 12. As a mission-focused family they spend time learning about different cultures around the world and study several foreign languages. She has been blogging at Eclectic Homeschooling since 2008.
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