"Time Out" For Mom

One question I am asked often by those curious about my military homeschooling family life is: When do you find time for yourself, especially while your husband is deployed?

Here is my answer.

Everyday, I give myself a time out.

This concept might not be new to some of you; but I believe that others will read this and it will spark something inside to encourage you take care of yourself, in addition to your family on a daily basis. Yes, I understand that all of our situations are unique – from number of children, to ages of children, married, single, etc. But one thing is for certain: Mom needs a little time to herself each day.

I first realized how detrimental this time alone would become in my life in the summer of 2004. This was our first deployment as a military family, and the very beginning of our homeschool journey. It took me about a week into our deployment to realize that I needed to schedule a little time each day where the children know that mommy is not to be disturbed (unless it is an emergency). At the time I implemented this, we only had one child and it didn’t take her too long to comply with this new item on our daily schedule. 

Currently our family is in the midst of our 5th deployment, 8th year of homeschooling, and have added two more the family. Now with three precious children I still get a time out each day. My time out varies from 30 minutes to an hour depending on what we have planned for the day. For me, my time out consists of any combination of the following: reading my Bible, praying, exercising, writing, having a cup of coffee or tea, and (if needed) taking a short nap. The possibilities are endless.

I want to encourage everyone reading this who has not yet found a way to take time out for yourself, to make it a priority in your life. While it might not be easy to find a way to do so, the benefits will far outweigh the time and effort to establish this simple change in your life. You can do it! And you should.   

When Carlie is not in time out, you can find her blogging about her faith and exciting military homeschooling adventures while living in Europe at: So You Call Yourself A Homeschooler?



  1. lindsey says

    My hubby is deployed too:), and this has been my first year of homeschooling:). Things have been great and I LOVE LOVE LOVE homeschooling!!!!!!!! I make sure I have my alone time too, and all moms need to remember the importance of “recharging” :)! God bless!